The rest of my appt was disappointing. This is the second time I actually saw MY doctor. I saw her when she was 36 weeks pregnant, then she had her baby before I got back in, then she took time off (understandable) and so I have been seeing her nurse practitioner (who is great, but because she isn't my dr - would say or suggest things, but say I need to talk to the dr about it). Because my blog is not private right now - I don't want to go into all the details, so I will just bullet point what happened.
-My dr. didn't take notes from our first visit when we went over ALL the details from my previous labor so I had to remind her about everything.
-We had a Q&A about C-section vs. Vaginal delivery for my situation and the answers were discouraging
-Because she doesn't feel comfortable performing C-section's V-back (I guess that's how you say it) - if she does the C-section for me, I will have to have C-sections for the rest of my kids (which I would probably do anyway because of my situation - but I guess I liked the idea of having the option)
-Found out that the ultra sound tech wanted to see me back for another ultra sound at 26 weeks to follow up with something they found during the 20 week ultrasound (my doctor missed that before and JUST saw it so I obviously didn't go to any appointment) - VERY FRUSTRATED ABOUT THIS
-Even though I asked the doctor what they found, she jumped around the question and just made sure they got me in ASAP - would that make you nervous? It did me a little!
The confidence I had in my doctor after the first appointment has diminished. During my first appointment, she was so tentative and was asking a lot of questions, listening to my answers, giving suggestions, all that - but I guess she forgot to write it all down which I didn't know about until yesterday so it was like that first appointment never really happened.
Good news out of all of this - I get to have another ultra sound on Friday and get to see my baby. I did call the ultra sound tech's office to find out what they saw since my dr wouldn't tell me and they said the baby is totally fine, they found something with me that they wanted to have the dr check and they wanted to follow up with at 26 weeks or before, so its obviously not serious - but still - they found a bleed which to me sounds like it could affect the baby or something, maybe not - but I'm just bugged that I was not told about this and that it was overlooked.
Where is Dr. Brown when I need her. I miss you Dr. Brown!!!
Do I look for another doctor - or just stick it out with this one? I can't trust how I'm feeling because I am pregnant and over emotional haha - what would you do?
I am so sorry you have to go through this!! I don't know what your situation was with jaxon, but I am sorry you are having to decided between c-section, and vaginal. What ever decision you and Dan make will be the right one!! If you want to talk about a c-sec, I would be more than happy to answer any of your questions! I wish I would have had someone to ask before mine!! Sorry things are so difficult right now! Call me if you want to talk!! Good luck!!
ReplyDeleteI'm a little confused trying to follow your doctor situation. If you can and want to switch I suggest asking friends for recommendations.
ReplyDeleteThat aside though, I had a c section with Elise. At the time I was in California where it is honestly illegal to have children vaginally after you've had a c section. Needless to say I was very concerned. However, even though I'm in Utah now, I won't do a vback. There has to be a serious reason that they would make it illegal and it just sounds dangerous. I don't know what your situation is but feel free to ask me any questions.
I'm so sorry you have to be in this situation! And I hope everything checks out okay during the ultrasound tomorrow. As far as c-sections go, I had one. My doctor is totally comfortable about doing a VBAC. So confident that I completely trust her with it. She would know if something were to go wrong and she would know exactly what to do. As far as switching doctors... I probably would stick it out, just because I'm non-confrontational and I hate causing trouble. But if you're really really uncomfortable with your doc, do it. You'd rather feel safe and trust your doctor than question. Good luck!!
ReplyDeleteOh man, sorry you have to deal with this, Lisa. I would be frustrated too! Well, I would guess that the bleed they saw is probably just a subchorionic bleed, which usually go away on their own and don't affect baby too much. I hope it's nothing worse! As for the doctor, I don't what I would do. My doctor probably isn't as awesome as Dr. Brown, but I can't complain, so I've never thought about switching. But maybe she's just scatter-brained after having a baby and will be back on her game soon. Oh, and the V-BAC stands for Vaginal Birth After C-Section, but hopefully if you want to have a vaginal delivery they'll make it possible for you to have one. Good luck with all this craziness, and at least you get to see your cute little girl on Friday! :)
ReplyDeleteOh man, its so hard to say when you have a previous Dr. to compare the new one to. Who are we kidding Dr. Brown is FABULOUS! I say come back to Utah for your delivery and go to your current Doc for all of the app leading up to the delivery! Ha ha
ReplyDeleteI know that doesnt really help..
I thought you had a Vaginal delivery with Jax! So why is your dr. talking about a VBAC?! Strange! I'm sorry, I am HUGE into having a GREAT Dr. so if it was me I'd probably switch Dr.s.... Good luck
Oh, that IS frustrating. I have to say, having worked for a number of years as a labor and delivery nurse, NOT all doctors are created equal. If you're not perfectly comfortable with her, switch. Even at 30 weeks. There are plenty of doctors out there who are kind, smart, compassionate, and willing to listen to AND WRITE DOWN your preferences. And also, VBAC's can be done beautifully. If you want to try one, find a physician who has done them before. I super loved my OB and her business partner--Marsha Perales and Cristina Belle-Henry.
ReplyDeleteGood luck, whatever you choose!! Do whatever makes you feel the least stressed. Hang in there! You'll be holding that sweet baby girl in no time. :)